Talane Miedaner (F’87, MA’89), is the author of the internationally best-selling book Coach Yourself to Success: 101 Tips to Accomplish your Personal and Professional Goals, along with The Secret Laws of Attraction, and Coach Yourself to a New Career. She is also the creator of the Career Change Coaching Kit, and is the owner and founder of LifeCoach.
Establish a Healthy Working Relationship with Your Boss by Managing Up!
All great relationships take work, and having a great relationship with your boss isn’t just about your manager, it is also about you. If you have a difficult boss you can improve your relationship with a few coaching and communication tips, transforming it into an effective working relationship, even if you don’t like or respect your manager. If you are fortunate enough to have a good manager, these tips will help you make that relationship even better. Don’t wait for your boss to take charge — you can dramatically improve your professional and personal relationships with these simple coaching tips.
First, just what does managing up mean? Most people tend to take a passive or reactive role with their boss, assuming that there is little they can do to improve the relationship. They wait and hope for their boss to recognize and reward their talents and hard work. It is unfortunate but your boss may not notice all the hard work you do, especially if you are working from home where your manager can’t see you toiling away at your desk. It is your responsibility to let your boss know how best to manage you and to show your boss what you have accomplished. After all, some people need a lot of direction and clarity from their manager, while others may chafe under too much supervision and prefer to be given free rein. Everyone is different, so you will need to let your boss know how to get the best out of you or risk being miserable at work. At the same time, you also need to put in place firm and clear boundaries with your boss and colleagues; manage the number of projects you are given so you don’t end up overworked and overwhelmed; and manage your training and development and career path. The key is to take a proactive role and assume the responsibility for your own career as opposed to assuming your manager will do this for you.
How do you know if you need to learn to manage up?
If you are feeling unappreciated, overworked, taken for granted, overlooked, or micromanaged then it is time for you to turn your working relationship around. And of course, you’ll want to do this with finesse, always respecting your boss’s authority. It helps to remember that your boss is human, and will forget some things and make mistakes too.
Stay tuned for more tips and insights into how to create a productive and healthy working relationship with your boss from master life coach Talane Miedaner (F’87, MA’89). Check out Talane’s Career Change Kit for insights into your working style, and how to be your best professional self.